Ajoleblon...A Cajun Tale

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Lafayette, Louisiana, United States
This journal is a bunch of rants about nothing. Mostly lighthearted happenings in the life of a woman who is very simple and who wants for nothing but greatly appreciates whatever is given. You will find nothing profound here but hopefully something that will make you laugh and that's what I enjoy doing most. Being humorous. Fight all error, but do it with good humor, patience, kindness, and love. Harshness will damage your own soul and spoil the best cause.

Monday, January 23, 2006

Me VS Grandma

After my date, I was thinking of taking the next step with my new friend and possibly holding hands. *snicker* Then I realized how things have changed since my grandmother's courting days. She has on many occasions told me that her and my grandfather never even held hands before marriage. The closest they came to being near each other was sitting about a foot apart on the couch. I asked her if it was a shock to her to realize the extent of what she had gotten into on her wedding night. The only thing she knew was what her mother told her and she had to do what her husband requested of her. It was a blessing that it came as a pleasant surprise to her because she thoroughly enjoyed what he had to show her. I guess we all have some clue of our sexuality and what goes on even before we are actually told. I can't imagine being that clueless.

I do remember, at the tender age of ten, the first time I learned what a man and a woman did in the privacy of their bedroom. It wasn't the most pleasant learning since it came from a book my 13 year old cousin confiscated from my Dad's stash. I will never forget the name of that book "The Insatiable Itch". I didn't even know what "insatiable" meant but I soon learned! Don't ask me who the author was because the writing inside was not what I considered literature. The first chapter was a real eye opener for me. I could not fathom the workings of some of the things going on but I had a feeling I shouldn't have been reading it but even at that age I couldn't put it down. I had to know!

Fast forward about a year and a half later when my mom decides its time to tell me about the birds and the bees. Talk about lame compared to what I already knew!

At the age of 13, I had my first boyfriend come over to my house, and mother catches me kissing him. She calls me into the room to explain to me what happens to a man when he gets excited. (OMG..I shit you not, she uses a jock strap to demonstrate...it was a priceless moment in time and I'm thinking, where the hell did she get that?) For some reason I had forgotten my first learning of this in "The Insatiable Itch" or maybe I just hadn't comprehended the full extent of it. Anyway, once my mom refreshed my memory on the workings of the male body, I had to hurry back to the living room and test her theory. And I’ll be damned if she wasn't right on target! Thank God that young man respected me because had he not, I could have gotten far more than I bargained for.

Yes, we've come a long way, but sometimes I think we've come way too far. I wonder what it would be like to sit one foot apart from someone that you truly care about and never hold hands or kiss. I think it would be impossible therefore my grandmother has either lied to me or she had steel running through her veins.

9 comments:

gailmb said...

My grandfather rode a bicycle 7 miles (one way) to court my grandmother. This was in the days before paved roads....and comfortable bicycle seats. I like to think that he probably at least got to hold her hand!!

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sangrialel said...

I can't imagine sitting far apart like that either!!! I would be sneaking over till I was right up next to him!  Lelly

garnett109 said...

Thats was a good story, they married young back then also!

stormypassionzz said...

You are so cute.  LOL   I love reading your stories.  :)

mosie1944 said...

My mom told me she knew what would happen in bed after she married because somehow she knew people would have to do the same things together that the farm animals and dogs did, to get babies.  But she had thought SURELY Daddy wouldn't do anything the first night!  WRONG!  And she said she was totally surprised the second night when she found out there was something in all this horseplay for her, too.  

saleenm98 said...

You are so right!!  This is a great entry.  It is amazing how far we've come in just a couple of generations.  My grandparents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary in 2004--and each of them is the only person the other has ever dated.  EVER!  Beautiful, but--weren't ya just the least bit curious, grams??!!
haha Lacey

siennastarr said...

Hmmm..... I tend to think there was far more hanky panky going on back then, than our grandparents would like us to believe.  I'll just bet you they did more than just hold hands! lol  Unless of course they were NEVER alone while they were, umm.. courtin'.   At any rate... I'm with you!  I can't imagine not being able to kiss or hug (amongst other things..hee) before saying those two condeming words "I DO!"   hee

Hugs
Jackie

hadonfield78 said...

That poor little boy...............
You must have been a little devil when you were young..............

hadonfield78 said...

My aunt told me a story about the old days once............
She said "YOu kids havent invented anything"
"We were doin the same stuff back then too"
"We were just more Quiet about it".........................
Makes Ya Wonder huh ??